The last "don't" listed in my last post left a few of us wondering: How exactly do we respond with the power of femininity? So I did a little research. These are the best answers I found:
"Femininity is acquired by ACCENTUATING THE DIFFERENCES BETWEEN YOURSELF AND MEN, NOT THE SIMILARITIES."
I guess most women in our day "accentuate" the body parts that differ from men's, but the suggestions in the book are a little more conservative. I'll list a few favorites:
1. Avoid wearing tweed, herringbone, hard finish woolens, and denims
2. Avoid tailored styles of clothing--try to use more full skirts, ruffles, scallops, puffed sleeves, low neck lines, puffs and drapes...I take back my comment about the suggestions being conservative--apparently the book does suggest we accentuate our different parts ;-)
3. Avoid purses which resemble men's brief cases
So let's take it back to the original question--when your husband is harsh, respond with the power of femininity, meaning take off your denim jeans and throw on a full skirt and puffy-sleeved blouse before an argument ensues. I'm an advocate for good communication, but if I can solve tiffs just with a change of clothes that might be worth it!
But there's more...
The feminine manner is the second half of the power of femininity.
1. "When you take a man's arm, place your hand lightly on his and do not use him as a support as you would a crutch"
2. "The most important part of the feminine manner is the walk...imagine that you weigh 95 pounds"
3. "The feminine voice is gentle, tender, and variable. It can be high and bubbling or soft and mellow but never firm, loud, or harsh"
4. "There are some women who laugh in a very unfeminine manner. They open their mouths wide, throw back their heads, close their eyes and roar. If these extremes are avoided the laugh will probably be at least acceptable"
So add to your full skirt and puff-sleeve blouse a little flitting around the room, talking and giggling in a bubbly voice, without throwing your head back or opening your mouth wide, and you should be able to move past any disagreement with your husband.
My next post will have to be some results from people's experiments with these timeless techniques.